Wednesday, March 15, 2006

A word (maybe more) on massage

There have been a few posts lately going through the blogs about massages. I have tried to comment on them but have decided that my own post would be easier.

It was first brought up by FTN. He was mainly asking about the apparel to wear and whether you would prefer a same sex Massage Therapist or one of the opposite sex. As pretty much all of my readers know my wife SR is a Certified Massage Therapist. So naturally I prefer my MT (massage therapist) to be of the opposite sex. Even in more detail I prefer my MT to be my wife. But if the choice had to be made between a male MT and no massage at all I'd have to pick the male MT.It really has nothing to do with being homophobic. I would just prefer the hands that are touching my body to be of the soft variety you find on a woman. With long thin fingers. Not short stubby fingers with clauses on them. To touch on the other part of his post I prefer to be as I came into the world when I receive my massages. I'm just more comfortable that way. There are other reason as well but we'll get into them later.

DH was the next to post about massage with these two posts. Now these are the types of massages that cause problems like this. Now I'm in no way saying that there is anything wrong with this. Hell I'd like to receive a massage like that. It's just that people like the little Asian girl he had are the ones that spark letters like SR received and want to shut her down from her business. If a person wants to give those types of massages then they should give them in a place that it is legal. Like Reno for example. But I would like to take this time to give DH a congratulations for ending his spell! Even though it was not from his wife he still ended it.

Next came from Michael in this post. He took his space to elaborate his experiences from FTN's original post. And took the time to explain about the "pitching of a tent" being a physiological occurrence than an arousal response. He equated a massage to being like a hug.
But isn't that part of the allure of a massage; not just the idea of relaxing the muscles, releasing toxins, etc., etc., but just the whole idea of being touched and pampered by another human. Isn't there an inherent sensuality to a massage, not necessarily sexual, but definitely at least a familiarity...I mean come on, a stranger rubbing oil over your mostly naked body. I know it doesn't have to be sexual, but it definitely can be. I would liken it to a hug. I realize this doesn't hold true for you non-huggers out there but just hear me out. A hug always feels good. Sometimes it's affection from your significant other, sometimes it's encouragement or joy from a friend, but (unless there's some bad b.o. involved) a hug is always enjoyable


Now here is where I am going to tie them all together to make my own post. I know I took way to long to get here but just bear with me here.

The reason that I like to be without apparel when receiving a massage (FTN) is that I have a major fantasy that what happened to DH will happen to me. Because after all I am receiving a massage from my wife therefore I do take it sexually. Like Michael said "I know it doesn't have to be sexual, but it definitely can be. That is the reason that I have the issue with pitching a tent every time that Summer gives me a massage. I take it as very sexual. After I am done receiving a massage the first thing I want to do is take her to the bedroom and ravish her body. Some of my best O's are after a massage. Alas that is never going to happen. She takes her job as a MT very seriously. Which is a good thing. To a point. Here we are husband and wife and she gets pissed off at me if I try to give her a kiss while I'm still on the massage table after the massage is over. To me that goes a little to far. I brushed her breast one time during a massage when she fist stared going to school and she stopped the massage right there. Told me that if I did that again it would be my last massage.

So that brings me to the point that as much as I love to have her give them to me it makes it hard to relax fully. I know that as soon as she rolls me onto my back and touches me (it don't matter where just a touch anywhere will do) I will start to pitch the circus tent. I also no that if that happens she will get embarrassed and not want to finish.

Maybe it is only a physiological response. But I know that it makes her uncomfortable. I also know that I can't help it. I pitch that tent every time she walks into the room. Just looking at her or thinking about her makes me that way.

That is why I would like to receive a massage from someone else sometime to see of I respond the same way. I have thought about going to the school she went to so I can receive a massage there from a student. I would also like to go to one of those massage parlors with the little Asian women in it to have them walk on my back for me.

There are a few types of massage that I would like to receive at one point. The first is a synchronicity massage.

Synchronicity Massage
For the ultimate pampering in relaxation. Not one but two massage therapists move in harmony to soothe and calm your entire body, creating balance and deep relaxation.
It is offered here. Unfortunately that is a definite NO on Summer's list. She refuses to share a client. I also can guarantee that I will pitch the biggest tent of my life for that one.

The next on my massage want list is a couple's massage. That would be where Summer and I are in the same room getting massaged at the sane time. Again that is something else that she will not do.

I also love to give Summer massages too. But ever since she went to school for it I just don't feel adequate in that department. Plus as I already said she take her massages very seriously. I on the other hand like to massage her whole body but at the same time I like to hhhmmmmmmmm............ explore. That's it. I like to explore her body while I am massaging her. As I said I see massage as being very sexual. I can't help it. I'm just an animal I guess. I see her body laying there and I just have to feel it and taste it smell it.

So there is my comments on massage. I really need to go now. ;-)

4 comments:

O272 said...

CH - Do you worry that SR's clients feel the same way you do about massages?

Michael said...

Honey and I did the couples massage...it was ok, really no different than an alone massage.

Now the synchronicity massage, that is definitely on my list of things to do. They also offer that at the place we had the couples massage. Unfortunately it costs twice as much, but I'm sure it would be worth it.

It's good that SR takes her profession so seriously, but it's unfortunate for you. Sensual massages can be a very good thing for couples. I think every guy has had the fantasy that DH lived (lucky bastard). But if that ever happened to me and Honey found out it would be my last massage.

Confused Husband said...

o272, Honestly I try not to think about it. Now it's in my head and it will be there for quite some time. Seriously though that is the good thing about where she works at. They are all old people that need viagra anyways.

Michael, If I were to ever get a synchronicity massage it wouldn't matter how much it cost. I'd have to go for it.
If what happened to DH happened to me I'd be castrated.
CH

April said...

Professional massages to me have never been sensual b/c they were given by someone I wasn't in nor wanted to be in any type of sexual relationship with. Those given by a significant other never fail to arouse a response. Being touched by another is always enjoyable, though...like the simpleness of a hug.