This is a continuation of the post below so go read it first. Pretty please?
so After I published the post I finally got ahold of Summer. I had told her what the teacher said and that I was staying home. When she got home as expected she was upset. She instantly got on the phone with someone with the school district. For the life of me I can't think of her position. Anyways Summer called her and I called Kaiser to talk to his psychiatrist. She wasn't in today as it's her day off. So I left a message for her to call us ASAP and that we want an appointment this week. NOT in a month.
Summer's conversation was a little hard to take. She was told that the school district would be willing to help with mental health services, BUT (that's a big but get it?) the school would have to report the incident to the police and have a report written up. Which they would have to do anyways. Then she said CPS would be called and have to come out to the house. Then they would see if they could get us help through the school district. BUT she's not sure if we can get help due to our income and the fact that we have medical insurance already. She also said that there is an option that they could take him to a live in psychiatry place or boys home like the 8 year old I spoke of previously.
After we both were off the phone she started crying and just sat in my lap. All she could say was what did we do wrong? How can we be that bad as parents? I kept saying that we're doing everything we can. It's not our fault it's just the way he is. It was kind of hard to say it like I meant it though. I don't believe it myself.
You want to know what the terrible thing is that makes me a real shitty parent? I actually would prefer that he goes to a live in place for awhile. Es[ecially if it will help him out. Because it is obvious that we aren't making things better. It would be hard to see him gone for the time that it would take. But if it would help out and find the problem and not just mask it with drugs like Kaiser does then it would be well worth it. I hate to see the way Summer feels right now. It tears me up inside. It's even worse when it is your own son that is doing it.
I'll be back with more in awhile.
5 comments:
wow. I really don't know what to say. All I can say is that I just said a prayer right now for your family. I hope you get all this figured out so your son can get some help!
Some words of hope, I hope:
My nephew was much like you describe. My sister allowed him to live in a group boy's home. It changed his life completely for the better. Now he is a high achiever. His favorite activity is volunteering with the elderly at a retirement home. He's one of the most wonderful humans I've ever met (including being a Conservative! lol). And he is on zero medication.
I hope you will be hopeful about this. I'm not one to abdicate to "experts"...but I've seen this scenario bring dramatically good results in my nephew's case.
My hopes are with you.
I really hope you know it's nothing you and Summer have done. You two love that boy!
And I hope that you get the help you need for him. I can't even imagine what the two of you are going through.
Parents only have so much control when a child is having issues like this. Don't be too hard on yourselves.
Our prayers are with you guys.
I just want to say that you are NOT shitty parents. You are good parents in a shitty position.
I am so sorry that you are going through this.
I think that you need to find a real specialist who can clarify which disorder your son actually has, and make a proper treatment plan.
And also some support for yourselves. Is there a local support group for parents in your position? They would be a good source of practical advice and would have a lot of experience to share with you.
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