Sunday, October 16, 2005

The most beautiful girl in the world

Have any of you ever heard the song "The most beautiful girl in the world"? After the kids went to bed tonight I decided to help my wife with the dishes. So while we are doing dishes I grabbed her from behind and started to sing that song. Well what do you know. It pissed her off. She got mad at me saying that she is NOT the most beautiful girl in the world. And she wants to know why I keep making up these stupid names for her. For the record I do not make up stupid names for her. I call her pretty, sexy woman, beautiful, or anything that would indicate that she is beautiful.
I just don't get it. I'm not lying when I tell her this stuff. That is the way that I truly feel about her. There are reasons that I feel that way too. Everything about her is beautiful. Her lips, her eyes, her stomach (that is what I love the most about her. Especially her belly button ring. That is a huge turn on for me a pierced navel). I also love the way that she wears absolutely no make up. With all the women on earth that she thinks looks better than her you aren't seeing the real them. You are seeing the made up them. With my wife you are seeing the real her. I'm not trying to say anything bad about those women who do wear make up. It's just not my thing.
I know it's not much of a post but to tell you the truth Now that my wife and I aren't fighting all the time anymore there just isn't much to talk about. I really want to keep my kids out of this Blog. So that doesn't leave much else to write about. I'm not going to take the site down as I like to post here. I just need to try to find a new direction to take this. Or just not try to post such long posts.


The Venting Housewife said...

My husband does that same thing to me...he sings me little songs, and always calls me sexy and beautiful. I tell him Im not the most beautiful girl in the world, and he says "in my world you are, and thats all that matters" and when I tell him I should wear more makeup, he tells me "make up is for ugly people" LMAO. So maybe he is just a smartass, but there are some tips for you.
As for the blog...we would love to hear about the great things you and your wife do...your blog doesn't have to be about the fighting.

Anonymous said...

I wish my boyfriend did that to me. She should be glad that you're saying nice things to her compare to never ever hearing it.

Kid Fury said...

Eleven years and kids... it can bring even the strongest soul to its knees. Oddly enough, I'm in the same boat. Love the family to death but wow can it take something out of a romantic like me when my wife doesn't want the attention.

I agree with a previous poster, focus on the good stuff. You'll see the scales tip in favor of the positive and you won't let the other stuff bother you as much.

As a friend of mine told me, 'you can't change me and make me happy, only I can do that.' Perhaps if you just stay shining, the affect will be contagious.

Confused Husband said...

VH: From my POV I don't think he is being a smartass. He is telling you the truth. I didn't want to say anything like what your husband tells you about makeup but that is my feelings as well.
I'll address the other issue in an upcoming post.

Annonymous: I keep telling her that I could do as your bf does. She says that would be fine. Although I think it would upset her if I stopped.

KF: I know exactly what you talking about.

bedroomdancer said...

Keep trying. Women have issues with taking compliments at face value. I was once told, stop that, it hurts me when you drag yourself down. It made me cry a bit, in the way that I didn't realize I was hurting husband by not accepting his compliments. It also made me realize, he loves me how I am and I should just trust that. She maybe needs to hear that.

~ anne said...

i think it's wonderful that you feel that way about your wife. while it is difficult for some women to accept compliments i think they would certainly change their minds if the compliments stopped. she's a lucky woman and you're obviously a lucky guy!


Desireous said...

If that were me I would probably get annoyed too. Only because it was so grandiose that I wouldn't feel it was sincere. This could be why it bothers her. If my guy told me I was beautiful I would not be upset but if he told me I was the most beautiful woman in the world there is just no way I could believe that. In fact, I remember an old boyfriend telling me I was the most beautiful woman he had ever saw. I told him, "Don't be ridiculous!"


TrophyWife said...

Dear Confused,

How sad for your wife. I know many women, including me, who would sell their soul to Neiman-Marcus just to have a husband do exactly this. I am sad for her.

Sing to me anytime.


bedroomdancer said...

D makes an interesting point. But in your case, perhaps unlike the boyfriend, you are sincere.