tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12164738.post115544764982375127..comments2023-05-08T02:38:16.383-07:00Comments on My Journey of Self Discovery: A real updateConfused Husbandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09526136327053673871noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12164738.post-1155756326667981702006-08-16T12:25:00.000-07:002006-08-16T12:25:00.000-07:00Wow...just found your page. I know exactly that f...Wow...just found your page. I know exactly that feeling you couldn't find the word for. When your therapist says something...and it hurts, but doesn't really hurt. <BR/><BR/>I think I agree with him, in that everything isn't always your fault. I know how it feels to feel that way, but it isn't true. As for the "ups and downs" thing...have you ever asked about being bi-polar? I am no therapist...(although I do plan on being one, someday.) but from what I've studied in psychology...your symptoms could be just that. It all depends on how high your "highs" go...and how low your "lows" are...but, it is a thing to be considered. Thanks for your post...check out my page...you may see we have a lot in common.Curtis and Shaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07600406154846003028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12164738.post-1155529353602934182006-08-13T21:22:00.000-07:002006-08-13T21:22:00.000-07:00I just found your bolg... I'm not even sure how......I just found your bolg... I'm not even sure how... ya know, link, link, link. Anyway you have know idea how much this post meant to me. I just started blogging hoping that it would help me work through the problems that I am having right now...(I can't quite bring myself to talk about them yet) which are almost identical to yours, (from what I've read). The only thing is... I haven't mustered up the courage to actually "deal" with it. I sit here and try to get myself to make the appointment with the doctor for counseling but, I'm afraid of what I will learn about myself. Does that make sense? <BR/><BR/>Anyway... Thanks for what you write, I know it's done for you, but I think it's going to be a big help to me. I'm looking forward to reading through your archives. <BR/><BR/>Sage xoxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12164738.post-1155519133458510662006-08-13T18:32:00.000-07:002006-08-13T18:32:00.000-07:00BH I'll definately be sure to let you know when I ...<B>BH</B> I'll definately be sure to let you know when I find the right mix. ;-) Just make sure your right there behind me.<BR/><BR/><B>emily</B> Now why would I want to throw fruit at you? I really do think that is what he was trying to do. But it took me a day or so to see it in hinsdight. Thak you for your input.<BR/><BR/>And you could never be a pain in the ass. :D<BR/>CHConfused Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09526136327053673871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12164738.post-1155508480214736962006-08-13T15:34:00.000-07:002006-08-13T15:34:00.000-07:00At the risk of being a pain in the arse and having...At the risk of being a pain in the arse and having rotten fruit thrown at me, I am just wondering if it is possible the Doc has a point?<BR/><BR/>For instance, blaming yourself for everything could be the flipside of your former controlling behaviour with Summer.<BR/><BR/>Maybe addressing both sides of this coin is not so much about looking for who to blame as part of seing the whole picture so that you can move on from it?Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16960808094968837047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12164738.post-1155486926257769542006-08-13T09:35:00.000-07:002006-08-13T09:35:00.000-07:00O That's what has upset me about the appointment. ...<B>O</B> That's what has upset me about the appointment. I don't want to point fingures anymore. I've/we've done enough of that in the past.<BR/><BR/><B>rob</B> I agree with you here. It has been settled and put in the past. I no longer want to dwell upon it. This was just a recap of my therapy apointment, where the Dr. asked me about the situation because he knew about it. What his observation was more about I think is that I have a tendancy to let everyone else off the hook to easily and put all the responsibility or blame on myself. What he is trying to do is not to makle me dwell on the situation but rather to learn that it is not always my fault and that I need to share the blame/responsibility. My initial reaction to that was to become upset about it because I felt that he was trying to get me to go back to the situation and discuss it with SR more. But now that I've had time to think about it he was trying to get me to learn from this for the future.<BR/><BR/>That observation about myself I agree with him. I've been having these mood swings from everything is great to everything and everyone is against me for as long as I can remember. What is needed now is to find out if the medication combined with therapy will help me to overcome this or if I'm doomed to be on the meds for the rest of my life. So yes there is lots more to be discovered still.<BR/>CHConfused Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09526136327053673871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12164738.post-1155476714616695542006-08-13T06:45:00.000-07:002006-08-13T06:45:00.000-07:00I would tend to agree with O here. Acknowledging w...I would tend to agree with O here. Acknowledging who does / does not own the blame is fine and does have it's place in order to put things in the right perspective. There it should then stop and be no further dwelt upon nor acted on. It's now history. Learn from it so as not to repeat the same mistakes in the future but then just move on with your life there. As to his observation about your mood swings, highs to lows and back to highs, well that too is understandable. After all, sometimes one's bodily chemical embalance does cause this to happen and the only way to control it best is with meds. Not always the case but some people are that way and no amount of mind reprogramming will change it. I don't know if you fit into that category CH as I'm not your doctor or therapist. So perhaps this is so with you or perhaps not and then meds are not the answer but rather a better take on daily life. Answers still to discover eh?Robhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18262061410188035232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12164738.post-1155469531718384172006-08-13T04:45:00.000-07:002006-08-13T04:45:00.000-07:00I don't think the focus should be placing blame on...I don't think the focus should be placing blame on anyone at this point. Is that what we need to do to get past something? Point a finger in order to move on? <BR/><BR/>Eh, what do I know? I'm not a therapist!O272https://www.blogger.com/profile/04295209654896482638noreply@blogger.com